#girlboss

It’s a term I absolutely love! According to a popularĀ Netflix movie, a #girlboss is strong, smart, resilient, opinionated, confident and feisty! Do you agree? If not, no worries! Everyone has a different definition. While the point is to define what being a #girlboss means FOR YOU, the more important thing is to BE THAT. In your personal life, work life or however else you define your life.

BE. THE. BOSS. OF. YOUR. OWN. LIFE.

Not someone else’s. Live your best life. Stay in your lane and mind your own business. šŸ™‹šŸ½ If you need to find (or re-find) inspiration you can listen to a #girlboss playlist (Spotify), read a #girlboss book, check out #girlboss quotes on Pinterest, set up a #girlboss lockscreen on your phone or take a #girlbossĀ trip. #whateverworks

LIVE. THE. LIFE. YOU. WANT. MAKE. IT. HAPPEN.

You can be 20 or 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 or 100+! Just know that while you are doing all those things, so are others and it’s okay! For me, being a #girlbossĀ means protecting my space and my peace. I guard that very closely because most times I just CANNOT!!!! šŸš«

FIND. YOUR. PASSION. AND. DO. THAT.

FACT: I like writing and paper. And guess what? So do A LOT of other people. As normal, we take the things we love whole new #levels! See also: Planner Situation, my current favorite penĀ (there’s nothing wrong with a little bling!) or Shop PaperSource. Another one of my personal #girlboss criteria is to have order in my life – in written form of course – (and to look the part šŸ˜‰)! The essential item I use to do this is an agenda. Mine is currently being repaired and I feel SO VERY stifled. šŸ˜©

You may have noticed I underlined a few words above: FIND, BE, DO, LIVE. They are all verbs because at the heart of being a #girlboss is to takeĀ ACTION.

GO. GET. IT. šŸ–¤

Calm in Chaos

ftfLife is tough. It’s hard. There’s always curve balls thrown at you from multiple angles: some you knock out of the park and some knock you down. ThereĀ is a singleĀ factor that determines the outcome, regardless of the situation: you. So what’s the secret sauce? How do you stay calm in the midst of chaos, when you’ve got multiple things competing for your attention? The answer is tucked away in a book called First Things First by Stephen R. Covey.Ā I received a copy of this book in 2001Ā by my managerĀ while on my very first internship at Lucent Technologies. In your personal life, at work, in social circles, I’m telling you unequivocally this book is the answerĀ because it asks one question: What are the most important things in your life? and forces you to #prioritize your greatest asset, #time.

So let’s get down to it. Grab a piece of paper and draw a square. Now divide it into 4 equal sections. You will fill in those boxes with all the things or tasks that occupy or compete for your time. They could be PTA meetings, Exercise, or preparing for a big presentation at work.

  • Top Left: Important and Urgent (crises, deadline-driven projects)
  • Top Right: Important, Not Urgent (preparation, prevention, planning, relationships)
  • Bottom Left: Urgent, Not Important (interruptions, many pressing matters)
  • Bottom Right: Not Urgent, Not Important (trivia, time wasters)

prioririesI’m serious here… Grab a piece of paper and get started! When you’re done, label the first column urgent, the second column not urgent. Label the first row important and the second row not important. Finally, I want you to do one thing: write a Big Fat Red XĀ  on the bottom 2 squares. Why? Because they’re distractions! Avoid them at all costs and notice when others try to force you to respond to or focus on these types of situation.Ā Spend your timeĀ on all those items you wrote on the top row and be strategic about it! That’s how you can stay calm in the midst of chaos: focus on what matters to YOU. Your blood pressure will thank you.

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I think I just found a better use for Microsoft Outlook’s Automatic Reply. Instead of Out of Office, how about “My name is not Olivia Pope.”Ā 

Those words are from my latest tweet. Can you relate??Ā I can’t think of a better way to unwind than to look at pictures of beautiful things. My therapy for the day is Shoes from Sophia’ Webster‘s 2014 Spring Collection.Ā When I saw this pair I completely forgot about changing my automatic reply (maybe for the better) and immediately looked her up online! Aren’t they gorgeous? The scallop detail, white tip on the heel and the bright colors?! This is not your everyday shoe (nor are they for the everyday budget). Check out a few of my favorites with butterfly themes or click here to view the entire collection.

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