Common Courtesy

Common Courtesy is often a misconstrued and misunderstood term. I view common courtesy just like I view common sense… it’s not so common! #FACTS. I literally just Googled, “What is Common Courtesy?” and here is one of the first items that popped up:

In fourth grade, my son received a handout about common courtesy. All elementary schools should incorporate a lesson about common courtesy each year!

Yes, you read that right. Fourth graders are being taught about the concept of common courtesy. Because I literally just had this conversion with a grown person (as ridiculous as that is…), I thought I would blog about it. Here is what fourth graders are being taught (emphasis mine):

  1. Show respect for others. When appropriate, say please, thank you and excuse me. After you receive a gift, make sure you write a thank you note or follow up with a phone call, email or text message. Do not use the word “shut up” – it is offensive!
  2. Always apologize when you do something wrong. When you physically or emotionally hurt someone apologize even if it’s an accident. If you make a mistake, try to make amends whenever possible. This starts with being self-aware and honest about your actions, regardless of your intentions.
  3. When someone is having a conversation, do not interrupt. If you must interrupt a conversation, make sure you are polite and say, “Excuse me, I’m sorry to interrupt but…”
  4. When you change your plans, let others know. Honor your word. If you commit to plans, make sure you show up. If something comes up (which it always does), make sure you contact others immediately. Why is this so difficult? When you don’t have the basic foresight to do this I call it #selfish #inconsiderate #nohometraining
  5. Respect the needs of others in public. Do not talk obnoxiously or loudly in public. Be aware of your surroundings and the people in the vicinity; use your cell phone in a private place. Always be respectful towards the people that serve you.
  6. Never embarrass another person. It is NOT polite to embarrass someone. In fact, it’s rude and mean and only serves to portray you as a bully. If you don’t have anything nice to say, then don’t say anything. I read something great  in a book one time – You have the right to remain silent!
  7. When refusing an invitation, be kind and honest. We cannot attend every function so sometimes you will need to politely decline an invitation. Remember it’s okay to decline an invitation but it’s wrong to lie to someone. #priorities
  8. Respect your elders. Always be polite to adults and treat them with respect. Go out of your way to help elderly people, e.g., hold the door open. Consider having a conversation with them – that may put a smile on their face.
  9. Use good table manners. I’m not implying you should put a napkin on your lap or keep your elbows off the table every time you eat. You should however, chew with your mouth shut and never speak with food in your mouth – that’s gross! Do not use your fingers unless, of course, it’s finger food. Use your napkin not your shirt and don’t lick your fingers.
  10. Respect other people’s property. Treat other people’s possessions like they were your own. If you lose or ruin something that belongs to someone else, fix or replace it. How about we also add put things back where you found them!

If fourth graders are being taught these basic concepts / principles, what excuses do adults have?? NONE. ZILCH. ZERO.

One thing I can say is that regardless of whether or not people show common courtesy to you, never let it alter your behavior or standards.

Give what you expect but also demand what you deserve! ~Bri Alys

digital p’s and q’s

digital2Do you know the “rules” of social media? Everyone of us posts and retweets, what we believe to be the fabulous happenings/events/things in our life. Some photos are our own and sometimes they belong to others. Our friends at W Magazine remind us that there are rules, to which we should all oblige. Fashion designer Jason Wu describes how things have changed:

Then… Admirers used to approach him with a bashful “Hi, you don’t know me, but I love your work” and request a photo together, which he’d always oblige.

Now… These days, however, many of them simply hold a smart phone in front of his face, take a shot, and move on—without saying a word.

Do you think that’s rude? Are you guilty?? Next time you decide to post that fabulous pic, use the tips below to help you mind your digital p’s and q’s.

  1. Don’t Flood the Feed: Unless you run a food blog, do you really need to post a picture of EVERY meal you eat? #diversify

  2. Don’t Leave Evidence: If you visit your “friend’s” city without telling her, why make it obvious? You’ve seen those “you didn’t take me with you” responses. Or then again, maybe you don’t care!

  3. Do Honor the Hashtag: It’s the best way to say thank-you or to get your picture noticed! Hashtags are cute, except when you use a thousand – then it kind of looks desperate…

  4. Don’t Beg for Retweets: It’s your page and it shows your personality. If you need someone else to validate what you’ve posted, why post it in the first place?

  5. Don’t Engage Haters: Really? The back and forth? #ChileBye Kill them with kindness! If that doesn’t work there’s always this neat little functionality called #block and #delete.

  6. Don’t Oversnap Your Welcome: Is there really a need to share ALL 100 photos of the Eifel tower you took on your recent trip? Pick the best one and share it! And please not the blurry one…

  7. Don’t Forage for Followers: I can explain this one very quickly. You know that follow button on my account, the account I setup? Well… I control it. #choice

  8. Don’t Hold a Grudge: Not invited? Get over it. Have your own dinner party and invite whoever you want!