Positioning

paparazzi600x399This morning I woke up with one word on my mind: positioning. As in the act of getting into an ideal spot. Parents sacrifice so their kids can go to the best schools, that is an act of positioning them for future success. Papparrazi climb fences/gates just so they can get the perfect shot. That’s also positioning. If you play chess or know anything about it, you also know that finding a way to get your pieces in the perfect spot so you can go boldly proclaim, checkmate. Finding the correct spot a particular piece needs to be in on that chess board at exactly the right time is an act of positioning.

Positioning is a constantly evolving thing and the spot you need to be in today is not necessarily the same spot you need to be in tomorrow. Sometimes you have to remove barriers or knock on new doors, stretch yourself to heights you never knew you could go to or maybe even give up something in hopes of getting something else. Prime example: As I got older I realized I didn’t want to live in the North; but, I viewed it as a means to an end. It was a part of my journey that was required to land me in the very spot I’m in today. I picked up pieces along the way, pieces that allowed me to get in position. And on that journey – from Birmingham to Rochester to Cleveland and finally to my “destination”, Atlanta – I gained some things and I lost some things. And I’m perfectly ok with that because I’m in position. The position I say I should be in.

tumblr_ly2c8jmxum1r4dfvho1_500My point to you is this: the only person that knows the ideal position at this very point in time for your life is you. Your positioning is up to no one other than you – you own it, you decide. You get to take credit and rejoice when things go well; but, you also have to take responsibility when they don’t go well, regardless of the reasoning behind it. You are required to first decide you need to be in a different position, investigate and truly understand what that means, claim it, pray about it, move into it and then do (or not do) all the things required to maintain your spot or position.

Positioning can apply to work, home or play and you are the only one that can be the MVP of your Game of Life. Pay very close attention when your positioning feels off and do something about it. Or as Beyonce would say, “Get in Formation.” Don’t just sing, do.

Happiness – an inside job

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I recently discovered a new blog, Hack Life, and one of the site’s last post is absolutely amazing! The title of the article ism “Happiness is an inside job”. I even found an article written by the Huffington Post that describes the very same concept this way:

As long as you believe that your happiness comes from outside you, happiness will likely elude you. Every moment that you look to people, things, events and outcomes to make you happy is a moment of life lost. Every moment spent trying to control someone or something in the hopes of getting what you believe will make you happy is a moment of happiness and joy lost. Happiness is not something that happens to you. It is something you choose or don’t choose each and every moment.

Is that not amazing? I love it! But, back to the original article; I will summarize the tips here for you because reading the pointers/tips alone are valuable in itself! You can read the original article for more commentary.

Here are the 12 Things You Don’t Owe Anyone:

  1. You don’t owe anyone the right to regulate your dreams.
  2. You don’t owe anyone the right to clutter your mental and physical space.
  3. You don’t owe anyone else a rationalization for investing in yourself.
  4. You don’t owe anyone another excuse (but you owe yourself another chance).
  5. You don’t owe anyone the authority to validate you.
  6. You don’t owe anyone the love you need to be giving yourself.
  7. You don’t owe anyone the respect you deserve to be showing yourself.
  8. You don’t owe anyone else a “yes” when you need to say “no.”
  9. You don’t owe anyone else your quiet “me time.”
  10. You don’t owe anyone a change in your fashion, style or appearance.
  11. You don’t owe anyone else an explanation about your important relationships.
  12. You don’t owe anyone the power to repeatedly break your heart (but you owe yourself a chance to heal once and for all).

See also: No is a complete sentence sentence from THE shined rhimes herself in a discussion with Oprah.  her and her! lol