#girlboss

It’s a term I absolutely love! According to a popular Netflix movie, a #girlboss is strong, smart, resilient, opinionated, confident and feisty! Do you agree? If not, no worries! Everyone has a different definition. While the point is to define what being a #girlboss means FOR YOU, the more important thing is to BE THAT. In your personal life, work life or however else you define your life.

BE. THE. BOSS. OF. YOUR. OWN. LIFE.

Not someone else’s. Live your best life. Stay in your lane and mind your own business. 🙋🏽 If you need to find (or re-find) inspiration you can listen to a #girlboss playlist (Spotify), read a #girlboss book, check out #girlboss quotes on Pinterest, set up a #girlboss lockscreen on your phone or take a #girlboss trip. #whateverworks

LIVE. THE. LIFE. YOU. WANT. MAKE. IT. HAPPEN.

You can be 20 or 30 or 40 or 50 or 60 or 100+! Just know that while you are doing all those things, so are others and it’s okay! For me, being a #girlboss means protecting my space and my peace. I guard that very closely because most times I just CANNOT!!!! 🚫

FIND. YOUR. PASSION. AND. DO. THAT.

FACT: I like writing and paper. And guess what? So do A LOT of other people. As normal, we take the things we love whole new #levels! See also: Planner Situation, my current favorite pen (there’s nothing wrong with a little bling!) or Shop PaperSource. Another one of my personal #girlboss criteria is to have order in my life – in written form of course – (and to look the part 😉)! The essential item I use to do this is an agenda. Mine is currently being repaired and I feel SO VERY stifled. 😩

You may have noticed I underlined a few words above: FIND, BE, DO, LIVE. They are all verbs because at the heart of being a #girlboss is to take ACTION.

GO. GET. IT. 🖤

Life is Like Tetris

9Z0oJXe

I ran across an amazing article at Medium.com, “Your Life Is Tetris. Stop Playing It Like Chess.” This article encompasses the very reason of why I love reading (and writing) blogs – people express themselves, compare things, and making amazing analogies. There are usually no canned thoughts and it’s very authentic. Before I capture the essence of the article I read, let’s talk a little about how these games work: In Tetris you are given varying shapes/blocks and your goal is to make them all fit evenly and score points in a set amount of time. There’s no competition, just you and those blocks. Each time you play, you try to beat your last game’s score. In Chess, there’s you and an opponent, each with the same “pieces” and the goal is to absolutely beat the other person – capture their king There can be only one winner and there is no time limit.

chess

The author compare these two games to The Game of Life, which i’ve written about before. (Click HERE for a review). The entire article is an great read; but here’s a summary: (my commentary in pink)

  1. In life, your only opponent is yourself. The real game of life is completely internal. STOP TRYING TO COMPETE/COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS. FOCUS ON BEING THE VERY BEST VERSION OF YOU!
  2. In life, things don’t get harder — they just get faster. The only way to master life — like Tetris — is to learn to play with the same self-control at the highest speeds. LEARNING TO ADAPT TO AD REMAIN CLAM IN ANY AND EVERY SITUATION IS WHAT SEPARATES DRAMA QUEENS FROM THE REST OF THE SAME POPULATION.  RELAX.
  3. In life, you can’t control the board. Like Tetris, you can simply put yourself in the best possible position without seeking to completely control the system you play in. YOU’VE HEARD THE SAYING, PLAY THE HAND YOU’VE BEEN DEALT. IF YOU DON’T LIKE THE CARDS YOU’VE BEEN HANDED (OR SELECTED FOR YOURSELF), GO OUT AND GET NEW ONES. NO ONE OWES A NEW HAND.
  4. In life, no one tells you when you’ve won. I don’t play to win — I play to play. WHAT DOES WINNING MEAN TO YOU? YOUR WINNING != TO MY WINNING. HAVE FUN! ENJOY LIFE! CELEBRATE THE SMALL THINGS. ONLY YOU CAN DETERMINE WHEN YOU’VE WON.

tumblr_nhkc7aL5aR1u24g4qo1_1280

Happiness – an inside job

Happiness-Is-An-Inside-Job

I recently discovered a new blog, Hack Life, and one of the site’s last post is absolutely amazing! The title of the article ism “Happiness is an inside job”. I even found an article written by the Huffington Post that describes the very same concept this way:

As long as you believe that your happiness comes from outside you, happiness will likely elude you. Every moment that you look to people, things, events and outcomes to make you happy is a moment of life lost. Every moment spent trying to control someone or something in the hopes of getting what you believe will make you happy is a moment of happiness and joy lost. Happiness is not something that happens to you. It is something you choose or don’t choose each and every moment.

Is that not amazing? I love it! But, back to the original article; I will summarize the tips here for you because reading the pointers/tips alone are valuable in itself! You can read the original article for more commentary.

Here are the 12 Things You Don’t Owe Anyone:

  1. You don’t owe anyone the right to regulate your dreams.
  2. You don’t owe anyone the right to clutter your mental and physical space.
  3. You don’t owe anyone else a rationalization for investing in yourself.
  4. You don’t owe anyone another excuse (but you owe yourself another chance).
  5. You don’t owe anyone the authority to validate you.
  6. You don’t owe anyone the love you need to be giving yourself.
  7. You don’t owe anyone the respect you deserve to be showing yourself.
  8. You don’t owe anyone else a “yes” when you need to say “no.”
  9. You don’t owe anyone else your quiet “me time.”
  10. You don’t owe anyone a change in your fashion, style or appearance.
  11. You don’t owe anyone else an explanation about your important relationships.
  12. You don’t owe anyone the power to repeatedly break your heart (but you owe yourself a chance to heal once and for all).

See also: No is a complete sentence sentence from THE shined rhimes herself in a discussion with Oprah.  her and her! lol

 

Periscope – A New Way to Live Stream

1-sn55t-Ktzj4-N9Q4JUFR5gA new app from Twitter, Periscope, has 10 million users and it’s only been available (iOS only) for 10 days! That’s an average of 1 million users per day. Periscope, is an app that allows you to beam live-stream video to all of your Twitter followers just a touch of a button. While the video below shows a man in a hospital getting a stem cell transplant, you can also use it for weddings, graduations, baby christenings, board meetings and more! Now, if Twitter can only figure out a way to monetize this app to keep it’s stock from tanking, they may be on to something!